"The man we need to be and the man we want to find"

Hey guys and gals.

It's been a pretty intense and fantasic last couple of weeks in youth. We have been studying from the word of God, what are the characteristics of a 'man we need to be and the man we want to find'.

I hope all of you have enjoyed this short 3 part series, as we now come into finding out about 'the women we need to be and the women we want to find'!!!!

Sounds interesting :D


As follows is just my own notes, and your more than welcome to post questions or comments!
Hope to see you all in Youth! God bless!!!


Titus 2:1-8 (NKJV)
"But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine:
That the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience:
The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behaviour, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-
That they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober minded,
In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptability, sound speech taht cannot be condemned that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you"


1st, The points that follow will be impossible to carry out if you don't have a relationship with God, through Jesus Christ. Yes, you may be able to do some of these things for a time, but in the end, you will fail to do them, and you will end up frustrated. What follows are characteristics of a man of God, that can only come through spending time, and letting God do His work in you, through the grace of Jesus.

a) the first thing that the passage says is to be Sober minded, which is also another way to be self controlled.

In todays society we see a great lack of control from people, whether it be with their money, their spair time, their sexual habits.
Guys, we need to be men, who can control ourselves. It is from lack of self control, that we fall into a lot of sin, and compromise our morals.

Self control goes into all areas of our lives; our money, time (what do i do with my time, am i playing games, am i watching excessive amounts of t.v), what we spend our money on, emotions (such as anger; Girls be very careful of a man that cannot control his emotions), how we treat others, over habitual sin (what do you do when no one is watching?), small things... such as speeding... etc.

b) 'a pattern of good works'

When we look at this part of the scripture, it is talking about having a pattern in your life that shows through good works. What do we mean by pattern??? we mean time....
THE TIME PRINCIPLE

Girls, and guys, if you are interested in anyone at church, you need to observe them for some time. People can fake it for a little while, but over time, you will see what type of person they truely are. If you meet someone you like, go ask around and see what people say of him, does he show a pattern of good works. If NOT, stay AWAY from him... if no-one knows him, STAY AWAY!!!!


c) 'Good works' = servanthood!!!
Finding someone who has a servant heart, will be someone that is willing to put others first, someone who is willing to put YOU (girls) first, and not himself!
Someone who is servent hearted, looks to help people, ESPECIALLY those that cannot be any benifit to them!
Look for this kind of man/women!

d) 'Integrity' SUPER IMPORTANT

Integrity is like character... but even more important. A good way of thinking of integrity is this "what would he/she be like, if no one else was watching, and no one would ever find out"

This goes to impact in future, how much you can trust them in marriage, can you trust them to be faithful to you, can you trust them to do the right thing??

other verses to look at about intergrity are 1 Samuel 16:7 and ecclesiastes 7:1

e) Reverence
Proverbs 1:7 "Beginning of all wisdom is the fear of God"
Does the person you like respect and fear God?
Does the person actively look to do what is right by God?
Does the person submit to authority?

A person who fears God, will always have the heart (doesn't mean their perfect) to do what is right by God. We want to find that type of person, and we want to be that type of person!

f) Incorruptibility/ purity
Mattew 5:8 says "the pure in heart shall see God"

If you have habitual sin (something that you know is sin, and you keep doing it) it will greatly diminish how much God can use you.
This includes stuff like.... pornography, watching R rated movies and above, doing things that you know God has told YOU specifically not to do (for me it's playing computer games), perhaps even spending time with guys/girls that you know have a bad influence on your spiritual life. All these things will greatly hinder how much God can use YOU
and we want God to use us, because cool things happen, and we will get the most out of life, and we will be happy!!

g) Sound speach!

praise the lord, we are almost to the end... this is the most i've ever typed for a blog.

Mattew 12:34-35 'For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasures of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things.'

You can always tell what someone is like, if you spend time with them and listen to what they say. If you are madly in love with them, get someone elses opinion... and if all your friends say 'i don't trust this guy/girl' STAY AWAY

Anyway guys and girls, God bless, and see you at YOUTH

p.s If you like someone, ask the pastor or youth leader, what type of person they are, because your leaders generally know what people are like, as they have seen them over a period of time, and know information about them. Trust their advice, as they care deeply for you!

KEEP PRAYING AND READ YOUR BIBLE!!!!